3 Most Important Couples Therapy Questions
As is the case with many things in life, there is no definitive answer that can fix every single relationship. Instead, couples who are beginning to drift apart need to seek couples therapy or counseling services and ask some tough but important relationship questions.
In order to truly get to the bottom of your difference, you need to bring some couples therapy questions to your next session. Couples counseling is the only way to let both parties share their side of the story and receive professional advice. In fact, according to research done by the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists, over 98% of those surveyed reported that they received good or excellent couples therapy, and over 97% of those surveyed said they got the help they needed.
Couples therapy questions are important because it allows your therapist to better understand the details of your relationship. Sometimes the issue is obvious, but each party is so dead set on being right that they forgo logic for petty arguments. In order to really get to the bottom of your differences, consider asking these three couples therapy questions during your next session:
- How can we improve communication? If you already realize that a lack of communication has caused your relationship to fail, then you’re taking a step in the right direction. A 16-year University of Michigan study of 373 couples found that it’s a couple’s fight style that may lead to divorce. Avoid the most dangerous pattern, which is when one partner tries to analyze a situation or disagreement and the other withdraws. Instead of withdrawing, sometimes you just need to sit each other down and refuse to leave the room until you come to a compromise.
- Is our lack of intimacy affecting the relationship? Relationships often fail because one partner either begins withdrawing from intimacy or becomes too focused on it. The truth is, intimacy is a major aspect of any successful relationship, and problems in your love life could be spilling over into your mood. You should explain your intimacy problems to your therapist and allow them to provide honest feedback that could open up a dialogue between each party.
- Should we get a divorce? The U.S. has a divorce rate of 3.4 per 1,000 people, so do not feel as if you are alone if you or your partner has mentioned a divorce. Before making any rash decisions, you absolutely need to seek the advice of an experienced therapist. Experiencing problems in a relationship can cloud your judgement, and you don’t want to make a permanent mistake because of one temporary bump in the road.
Keep these questions in mind and bring your own list of couples therapy questions to your next session. Your relationship is a complex situation, and asking the right questions could be the difference between a divorce and a happy life together.
Please let me know if you have any questions. I’d love to help you!